Typically, people who are in a visual mode stand or sit with their heads up and/or their bodies erect with their eyes up, and will be breathing from the top of their lungs. They often sit forward in their chair or on the edge of their chair.
They tend to be more organized, neat, well groomed and orderly. More deliberate, more appearance oriented and sometimes quieter and are usually good spellers. Visual people memorize by seeing pictures and are less likely to be distracted by noise. Often they have trouble remembering verbal instruction and would rather read than be read to.
A visual person will be interested in how someone looks at them and will respond to being taken places and bought things. They tend to use words like ‘see you later’, ‘I want to look at it’, ‘Show me’, ‘Focus’, ‘Watch it, be clear, foggy, picture that, notice and it appears that…’
Someone who is auditory will move their eyes sideways and also down to the right. They breathe from the middle of their chest. They typically talk to themselves and are easily distracted by noise. They often move their lips when they are mentally saying words. They can repeat things back to you easily. They may find maths and writing more difficult and spoken language easier. They like music and learn by listening.
They memorize by steps, procedures and sequences. An auditory person is often interested in being told how they’re doing, and responds to a certain set of words and phrases like: ‘listen, talk to, said, speak, sounds like, hear, good to talk to you’.
They will typically breathe from the bottom of their lungs so you’ll see their stomach go in and out as they breathe. Their posture is often more slumped over and they often move and talk very slooooooowly. They will typically access their feelings and emotions to ‘get a feel’ for what they are doing. They respond to physical rewards and touching. They also stand close to people and touch them. They are often physically orientated people (athletes). They may move a lot and they memorize by ‘doing’, or walking through something. They use words like: ‘feelings, get in touch, hold, grasp and handle’.
You may not know whether you are predominantly a visual, hearing or feeling person because of course the vocabulary we use comes to us naturally. However, the following questionnaire will help you to discover which preference you may have. It is unlikely that you will be 100% visual, hearing or feeling, but it is very useful to know which one you favour.
VHF COMMUNICATION CHANNELS QUESTIONNAIRE
Read each question in turn and circle the letter a, b or c as the answer which applies to you:
1. What would make you suspect that someone is lying to you?
(a) The way they look at your, or avoid looking at you
(b) Their tome of voice
(c) A feeling you get about their sincerity
2. How do you know that you have had a good day golf coaching?
(a) A things to do list with everything ticked off
(b) A productive lesson or good news over the telephone
(c) An inner glow, a smile, a feeling of deep satisfaction
3. What kind of activity do you prefer on holiday?
(a) Seeing the sights and local colour, visiting a museum or art gallery
(b) Attending a concert or a good talk about something you are interested in
(c) Lazing on a sun-drenched beach, swimming to cool off
4. Outside of golf which of the following groups of hobbies appeals most?
(a) Cinema, photography, art, interior design
(b) Playing a musical instrument, listening to music, singing
(c) Sport (other than golf), cookery, gardening
5. Which television programme would you prefer to watch?
(a) A programme about painting or art
(b) A music programme
(c) A wildlife or drama
6. Which would you prefer as a treat?
(a) A weekend break to somewhere you have never visited
(b) A personal dedication on the radio
(c) Your favourite meal with good wine and good company
7. Which is the best way for you to unwind at the end of the day?
(a) Watch TV
(b) Talk on the phone or to a friend at the pub
(c) An aromatherapy massage
8. If you wanted to thank or reward a friend for a favour which of these would you do?
(a) Write them a thank you note
(b) Telephone them
(c) Give them a gift
9. Which accessories do you like to have in your home?
(a) Lots of pictures and good lighting
(b) MP3 player, i-pod, CD player
(c) Comfy sofa, comfy bed
10. How would you discipline a naughty child?
(a) A stern look or frown
(b) Shout or use the tone of your voice
(c) Punishment by deprivation i.e. take something away
Work out how many a’s, b’s or c’s you are and then put them in order –
a) is for visual
b) is for audio
c) is for feeling/kinaesthetic
If you have 6 a’s, 1 b and 3 c’s then you are 60% visual and will learn more effectively if your coach uses language which helps you to visualise what you need to be learning.
The first rule of the Confidence Caddie programme is all about getting to know yourself and how you tick. It is up to you to understand what makes you tick in order for you to get the best out of life and to gain clarity on what works for you and what doesn’t.
It is your responsibility if you are going to achieve the success you seek in any area of life including golf. So next time you are having some instruction if you do not understand how a skill is being taught to you speak up and help the Coach understand how you need to be able to be instructed.
The Coach is there to help and will be only too glad to explain in a way that will help you to move on; if he or she isn’t then change coaches!
It is all about communicating – both externally and internally.
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Till next week …